Marriage Decision Tips for Working Women

You are in your late twenties or early thirties, and the marriage pressure is at its maximum. You are independent, well-educated, you probably have a good job or your own reputable business by now. However, you might also be wondering what is wrong with you, especially after a few rejections.

Well, trust common-sense, something is amiss in the societal norms, not in you.

So, when the going gets tough, my two cents are to keep the following few points in mind:

• “How little do they see what really is, who frame their hasty judgement upon that which seems.” Daniel Webster

Keep calm and don’t make any hasty decisions just because you are made to believe time is running out. No anxiety or stress is going to magically bring the person in your life, what is for you will never pass you by. Everyone has their decreed time to get their soul mate. Keep on praying, for your strength, for guidance and partner.

• “The only thing that we have to fear is fear itself…” Franklin D. Roosevelt

It’s better not to make the most important decision of your life based on some temporary feeling like guilt or fear. Simply having a relationship just for the sake of it, or where your mental health is at stake is prone to trouble. When you are fully aware and ready for the big step, then go for it.

• “It is not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are.” Roy Disney

Factors such as the men’s education and earning are part of the decision process, but most important is the character of the person. Do make an effort to know the person, his traits, values and opinions. Because even though our culture emphasizes on the women’s sacrifices and compromise mostly, simply believing the term that ‘this problem will go away after marriage’ is foolishness. If there is something that goes against your values, then notify it, because it might eventually become your reason for confrontation afterwards.

• “We all have to let go of the Prince Charming complex and realize he doesn’t necessarily exist in the package we assume he’ll come in.” Gabrielle Union

Even if the person is in love with you, life is still not going to be bed of roses. Married life is hard work. Before you dive into it, be mentally prepared about how much margin you can give yourself, where your limits are and if you are a working women, how will you manage time after marriage. Being in the year 2021, means knowing your rights, whileentrusted with duties; being strong internally; while having a fragile nature; Being realistic, while never giving up hope.

• “A strong women understands that gifts such as logic, decisiveness, and strength are just as feminine as intuition and emotional connection. She values and uses all of her gifts.” Nancy Rathburn

Last but not the least important and much neglected point is your intuition. YOU will be living the married life, not anyone else, trust YOUR feelings and decisions. You can pick up bad vibes. If you have a deep feeling inside that something is not right, trust that feeling. Bring it forward and work on it.

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Article By Ayisha Qureshi, Specially for HK MATRIMONY